Category Archives: j's lovely things

Make Peace

This is my favorite part of Mondays… beckoning the lovely on Zebra Sounds. This week’s assignment was to “make peace.” And so I did… all over the place.

Out of laundry...

Out of laundry...

Out of paperclips...

Out of paperclips...

Out of (homegrown!) cherry tomatoes...

Out of (homegrown!) cherry tomatoes...

Out of rocks (lower left)...

Out of rocks (lower right)...

in the sand...

in the sand...

(Gotta love the symbolism...)

(Gotta love the symbolism...)

Out of... me!

Out of... me!

I had so much fun making peace, and I beckoned some extra lovely in the process…

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Okay, okay, I’ll stop! But believe me, I spared you. I have SO many pictures of my peace-making week. Silliness and beauty were both in great supply!

Up next: Make out. (I know. Yikes! Can’t even imagine what I’m going to do for that one.)

Make It Up As You Go

This week’s “beckoning the lovely” goal: Make it up as you go.

I decided on Friday that I would spend the day making it up as I go. I loaded my backpack up with possible activities – my laptop, my notebook, a set of jacks, earphones, coloring books, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo… I was prepared to be imaginative. But on my way out, I got derailed. To share why might be too much information. Suffice it to say that the cure for my derailment involved an actual doctor.

I couldn’t have asked for a more real time, this-is-what-it-means-to-make-it-up-as-you-go sort of catalyst. What I needed could not be found in my backpack, and from its beginning (me in search of an  indie cafe with wireless) to its end (my music-filled evening in Napa), Friday was, in fact, a day made up as I went.

And I’ve been thinking about it ever since. I know I’m stating the obvious to say that life is a work in progress, that we do – all of us – make it up as we go. But I’ve been thinking about how, for me, making it up as I go has been a fairly passive activity. Life throws a curve ball, I react. I improvise. Sometimes it’s jarring, disorienting. Sometimes it’s wonderful.

I wonder if there’s value in adopting a more assertive version of making it up as you go. Like my backpack full of options. What if I, at least occasionally, toss my list of things to do, and head out into the day armed not with a plan, but with possibility. I don’t think you can make it work all the time, and anyone who reads me regularly knows I am a lover of lists and a firm believer in the power of enumeration, but I’m thinking that maybe an active make-it-up-as-you-go strategy that is, by nature, not completely defined, might sometimes yield the best results. And by best I mean rewarding, fulfilling, fun… curious in the best sense of the word.

I like the idea of that – seeking out, rather than simply reacting to – life’s surprises. What do you think? Are you in?

(Next week’s lovely thing? Make peace.)

Make Someone’s Day

So, it’s Monday, time to Beckon the Lovely at Zebra Sounds. But first… big news! Today marks the half way point on my list of lovely things. Here’s how it looks in list form (because you know I love lists and I’ve grown fond of strikethrough):

  1. Make a grand entrance
  2. Make a friend
  3. Make something pretty
  4. Kiss and make up (sort of)
  5. Make do with what I have
  6. Make someone’s day
  7. Make music
  8. Make it up as I go
  9. Make peace
  10. Make out
  11. Make a splash
  12. Make a movie

Today, I’m sort of cheating. I didn’t so much make anyone’s day as all of you made mine. I’m always a little nervous when I write a post asking for something. Before I hit “publish” I have that sinking feeling, like maybe I’m throwing a party to which no one will come. But Thursday, I invited everyone to send me images of what represents happiness to them, and look at all I got!

I love these pictures. Most of you wrote me notes about why your image touched you, but I think the words are unnecessary. The images speak for themselves. The (amazing, stupendous, only-took-me-a-couple-of-days-to-figure-out-the-software) collage is a little bit small, but just click it to see it bigger.

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So, hey everybody thanks for totally making my day. I owe you big time. (If you missed any of the past loveliness, click here.)

Up next… Make music. (Be afraid. I have no musical talent at all.)

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And now for something completely different… I love this time lapse film of artists collaborating on a painting. Watch till the end. It’s very cute.

Make Do With What You Have

It’s Monday and today’s “Beckoning The Lovely” post begins with a disclaimer. Last week I was more than a little distracted because my father had surgery. (He’ll be fine, don’t worry. He’s not the subject of this post. Mostly because he would hate to be the subject of this post. Or any post. Seriously. Don’t go there; you’ll get me in trouble.)

So, anyway, I was distracted. I knew the next thing on the list of lovely things was “make do with what you have,” and every once in a while, I would think, “I better hurry up and make do, or Monday I’ll be postless.” Still, I kept getting distracted by things like this: Every Wednesday just outside the front door of the VA hospital, there’s a farmers’ market. No kidding. I love that. My dad’s surgery has so far not allowed him to eat anything they sell there, but this week, maybe I’ll smuggle him up some strawberries. (They looked delicious and very healing to me.)

I was also distracted by a commute I’ve grown unaccustomed to (though NPR provides a constant supply of things you might not know – expect a post soon). I was distracted by doctors and nurses and orderlies and volunteers. I was distracted by the view outside the window of my father’s room  – an enormous, truly majestic flag, flying at half mast. I was distracted by strange things too, like what to wear to the hospital, what to talk about once I got there, when to leave.

I kept forgetting about this post until today, when I sat down to write it and I couldn’t think of what I’d say, and I decided maybe the best thing was just to start typing. And somewhere along the way it occurred to me that my mom and dad and I have been making do with what we have all week. We’ve made do with less sleep and disrupted schedules. We’ve struggled, sometimes, to say the right thing, or even to say anything at all. None of the words we’ve come up with have been particularly brilliant or inspiring, but we’ve understood, all of us without saying it aloud, that in this unfamiliar territory, we are doing our best.

And the truth is that this lovely thing happens all the time. Life makes unexpected demands and we respond. We improvise. We work with what we have, and when we’re lucky, what we have turns out to be just what we need.

Up next… Make someone’s day.

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And now for something completely different… Need an addictive time waster? Silly question, I know. Who doesn’t, right? Try this online word game from indie game designer Bart Bonte. The fun popping sound it makes is weirdly rewarding.

A kiss is a lovely thing

So far on my quest to beckon the lovely, I’ve made a grand entrance, made a friend, and made something pretty. Today…

Kiss makeup!

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What?

Oh, right it was “kiss AND make up.” Well, what can I can I say? I didn’t piss anyone off last week, so there was no need to kiss and make up.

I know. It doesn’t quite rise to the level of “lovely” but it’s fun, and hopefully it made you laugh. It made me laugh. I realized, as I studied a picture of Paul Stanley, that I’ve never used face paint on myself before. So it was a first, and I love firsts! Now if you weren’t as nice as I was last week, go do something lovely – kiss and make up for real!

Next Monday: Make do with what I have!

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And now for something completely different… These kitty pictures are so cute, and the captions so funny, I think it more than makes up for the absence of a Caption This post last Friday. Enjoy!

Make Something Pretty

It’s Monday… must be time to beckon the lovely!

This week’s assignment was to make something pretty, and I decided to make a pretty Sunday – the day (not the dessert). Here’s the recipe.

1 pretty blue sky (pretty tree optional)

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1 pretty latte (this one is from Panama Red, the coffee shop on my 3/50 list)

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1 book (or newspaper) to read while sipping (outside of course, under that blue sky)

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1 walk around town (cute walking partner optional, but highly recommended)

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1 fountain (if this ingredient is unavailable, replace it with an organ grinder’s monkey – that’s what I was really hoping for)

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1 art project (I decided to change Lexi’s plain water dish into something pretty… the result is at the end of this post)

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2 cucumber martinis (and someone to toast with)

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Plus an awesome dinner with people you love.

Mix it all together, and enjoy.

Oh! And I’m really proud of Lexi’s bowl. Going into it, I had no idea what I’d do. I bought some permanent markers and just started drawing. You’ll see in the video how thrilled Lexi is. (Don’t let her seeming indifference fool you. It’s just canine cool. Inside, she’s ecstatic, barking, wagging, smiling. Really.)

Next Monday: Kiss and Make Up! (I’ve got big plans for this one.)

Make A Friend

About a week ago, I posted Amy Krouse Rosenthal’s wonderful video, The Beckoning of Lovely, in which Amy, along with hundreds of people who accepted her You Tube invitation to create something cool together, did just that. In fact they made 12 cool things.

After watching The Beckoning of Lovely, I was inspired. I decided to create the same 12 cool things myself, and share them here on Zebra Sounds every Monday. I posted the first, Make A Grand Entrance, last Monday. Today it’s time for the second… Make A Friend.

Making a friend is harder than you might think. In the video, Amy says “Make a friend,” and everyone turns to hug the people closest to them. In real life, hugging strangers is awkward and maybe even dangerous. Generally speaking, people aren’t ready for spontaneous affection from someone who just happens to be standing near them. In real life, there’s a bit of an art to turning strangers into friends, and it doesn’t come easily to those of us who have a tendency to become tongue-tied around people we don’t know. Especially (and inexplicably) around interesting people we don’t know.

Still, I think my week of trying to make friends has been a success. First, I volunteered to participate in three upcoming literary events. All will involve me meeting strangers, working and playing with them. Making friends. Also, last night, I attended an amazing play in which a friend of mine performed. Afterward I was invited to the cast party. Quelling the bit of panic that the word “party” evokes in me, I went, and instead of parking myself in a corner, I smiled, I hugged some people, I asked questions. I met the director, two of the actors, a cellist, a writer, a librarian married to a concert flutist. I made friends.

I didn’t catch it on film, though, so I have one more success story to share, because sometimes making a friend comes from seizing an opportunity you didn’t know you’d have. My unexpected opportunity happened at the amusement park, in route from The Demon roller coaster to The Vortex. Right there in the middle of everything, surrounded by people half my size, was someone I was very excited to meet!

SpongeBob is adorable, but is it me, or does squidward look like a cartoony lech?

SpongeBob is adorable, but is it me, or does squidward look like a cartoony lech?

Up next… Make Something Pretty. Can’t wait to show you my pretty something next Monday.

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And now for something not very different at all… The world needs more hugs.

My amazing, wonderful, big fat fun idea

Yesterday I posted The Beckoning of Lovely, a video which made me smile from beginning to end. As I watched I got this amazing, wonderful, big fat fun idea.

In the film, writer Amy Krouse Rosenthal, along with hundreds of curious and creative souls, “make a bunch of stuff together.” They:

  1. Make a grand entrance
  2. Make a friend
  3. Make something pretty
  4. Kiss and make up
  5. Make do with what they have
  6. Make someone’s day
  7. Make music
  8. Make it up as they go
  9. Make peace
  10. Make out
  11. Make a splash
  12. Make a movie

And so here’s what I thought… I want to “make a bunch of stuff” too. Having stumbled upon Amy too late to participate (and not living in Chicago), I wasn’t able to be part of the big event last year, but I can do it now. And that’s exactly what I’m going to do. Starting tomorrow, every Monday, I’ll post my lovely thing. Twelve weeks, twelve things. (And a new category – J’s Lovey Things.)

You’ll notice the first one is “Make A Grand Entrance.” Anyone who knows me knows that I’m not the “make a grand entrance” type. So this will be a challenge for me. I either have to be daring, or be creative. Hopefully, during the course of the next 12 weeks, I’ll be both!

I’d love it if you did it too. If you were touched by Amy’s film, if you’re feeling creative and fun, or if you’re inspired to tap into the part of you that is creative and fun, then please join in my shenanigans! Pick one or all of the things on Amy’s list and make them for yourself. And if you do, feel free to comment on it here in Zebra Sounds, or send it to me.

Share your lovely!

I anticipate having fun, tapping into my creative, daring self, learning something new. And who knows? Maybe it will be so much fun I’ll just keep going, making lovely things week, after week, after twelfth week.